Child Issues

Problem; It can be called as finding the difference between the current situation and the situation that should be. If this difference perceived by the person is noticed, it is possible to talk about the existence of a problem. Otherwise, differences that do not disturb the person or disrupt the functionality of his life are considered a problem.
it doesn’t show up.
Generally, the problem in the parent-child relationship is the acceptance of the behavior by the parents.
associated with being acceptable or unacceptable. What behavior is acceptable
It is not the behavior itself that determines its inadmissibility. The environment in which the behavior is exhibited,
The age of the child and the current emotional state of the parents are also unacceptable factors.
These unacceptable behaviors are actually the problem of the parents, not the child. A
During the problem, this situation should first ask questions such as “who is the problem for?” or “whose problem is it?”
You can start by asking yourself. If this is a child’s problem, first ask him about it.
describe it, then what he thinks about it, and finally what he feels.
You can ask them to share. Here is the key point; first to identify a situation, then to determine the pattern of thought.
to reveal and reveal the emotion created by this situation in the person. This sequence is quite
is important. Asking the child for his thoughts before his feelings after an event is actually
makes him realize that it is thoughts that govern emotions. Then what is the reaction to this problem?
You can ask him to share with you what he has given you or what kind of solution he thinks. to this problem
What else could you do against it, or if the action had taken place, what else could you do? questions in the form
develops your child’s thinking skills, also owns the problem and appropriately
You will be raised as an individual who develops solutions. And finally, your child found
We should also talk about the effect of the method in the future and predict the possible results.
You can gain foresight skills.
Children who have attachment problems towards their parents usually have parents at a young age.
It is among the data we receive during therapy that they are individuals who own their problems. This
Therefore, it is necessary to provide the child with a sense of responsibility and a secure attachment style in his future relationship.
You should give your child this responsibility and intervene until they share the problem with you.
you shouldn’t. For example; When you observe him arguing with his friends, “Come on, apologize, make peace,
Don’t fight” instead of ”What’s the problem? How can you solve this situation without getting upset for both of you?”
You should put your child in the thinking chair by approaching the If you notice in the first sentence
You think, not your child, and you find a solution, even when the problem is not yours.
You even own it.
Now I will share with you the problem solving steps in more detail.

Step 1: Identify what the problem is.
What happened? What is the problem?
Step 2: Clarify thoughts.

What did you think so? What was the result when you did this?

Step 3: Identify the emotions.
What did you feel?

Step 4: Clarify feelings about the results.
How did you feel about this result?
(For example; how did you feel when you bought your toy?)
Step 5: Encourage the child to come up with alternative solutions.
Can you think of a different way to solve this problem?
(You can find a different way that neither of you will be upset. What might that way be?)

Step 6: Encourage the child to evaluate each solution.

Is this a good idea?
If it’s a good idea go and try this.

Step 7: Praise your child for thinking.
If the solution works, “You thought of everything yourself, congratulations.”
If the solution doesn’t work “You should think of something different. your good thinker
I know that . You can approach ‘.

Have fun.

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