Child and Mourning

Children, like adults, can experience various types of losses and may lose contact with loved ones.

Children also experience such losses when a friend falls ill or dies, or when loved ones move far away. All these losses can result in the emergence of the grief reaction in children.

Young children have trouble understanding that death is universal. These children

They need to understand that all living things, including themselves, will one day die. that death is the end of life and that someone who has died

should be told in a language appropriate to the child that he or she will not return in any way. Children may have difficulty understanding that a deceased person’s bodily functions have stopped, that the person is no longer breathing or is not hungry. It is possible to see a child whose mother has died playing hide and seek with his friends at the funeral. Likewise, a child who has lost a parent may think that he is being punished for misbehaving. In such cases, it is of great importance to tell the child about death in the most accurate and concrete way. The loss of a pet should also be a process that should not be underestimated and the grieving process should be allowed to live properly.

Abstract thinking ability develops in children exactly at the age of 12. For this reason, in order for children to understand and make sense of death better, what death is, what it can cause and what will happen to someone when they die should be expressed in concrete terms as much as possible without using abstract words.

While children try to make sense of death;

*Anxiety and fear

* Sleeping disorders

* Made to attract anger and attention


* Withdrawal and avoiding the environment

behaviors to abstract

* Sadness, longing and loss

* Guilt

They can react like

The best things to do for the grieving child; To give the feeling that the child is cared for and to be cared for, to tell the child what happened and to listen to him in order to know what he understands, to care about openness and honesty, and to maintain the existing order.

While the duration of grief may vary from person to person, it would be correct to seek support from a professional for a period exceeding 6 months to 1 year.

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