Being a Working Mom

Are you a working mother or a concerned mother?

Mothers always want to present the best for their children in the best way. Even if children are satisfied with their mothers because of the attention and love, mothers always want to give their children more.

For mothers, physical care, shelter, clothing, health care, rest, and exercise may seem like enough for a child’s happiness to have a warm home and a safe family. However, these tasks are not always that easy.

In the past it was easier for mothers to stay at home and strive to raise a happy, strong child. Today, however, the situation is much different for mothers. Mothers may be people who are in the working life for the income of the house, who continue their mother’s concerns about their child while working, or who have to withdraw from working life and deal with the socioeconomic costs of this in order to take care of their child.

While mothers actually think about sitting alone with their children and relaxing and spending time with their children, on the other hand, household chores bring this to be postponed all the time. Many working or non-working women complain that they do not have time to spare for their children today.

Do the home helpers that working mothers find to increase their time ensure that the mother, who has worked all day and is tired, spares a limited amount of time for her child? Of course, the vast majority of us would like it to be, but many working mothers use this type of assistance, sometimes to work more or to have some time to themselves. Because modern life brings with it difficulties in keeping up with something and always a list of things to do.

If workaholism, which can be defined as an individual’s continuing to work by ignoring many things in his life, is infected with a parent (we can call it a social-psychological contagion), it becomes increasingly impossible for the child or children living in that house to get their share of attention. However, it is necessary to distinguish between hard work and workaholism. If the parent in question is able to devote time primarily to himself, his child and his immediate surroundings outside of working time, he can only be referred to as an overworked parent. Due to the necessities of today’s life, being a working mother and spending quality time with her child at the same time requires a high performance.

So, who is a non-working mother? In fact, there is hardly any mother who does not work. A person referred to as a ‘housewife’, whom we think has never worked, does many time-consuming and invisible tasks such as childcare, housework, and organizing the house. However, she can be defined as a non-working mother if she does not work in a professionally defined or undefined job despite the cleaning and childcare assistants they receive, and if she only takes time for herself.

So, how much time should a working or non-working mother devote to her child? This much discussed topic leads us to the concept of quality time. So, is quality time enough? Does the mother who spends 15 minutes a day with her child really spend enough time, even if it is quality? The ideal is to spend at least 45-60 minutes of your time. Depending on the age level, quality time can be spent on many topics, from rolling balls together, playing with box toys, painting, chatting with each other.

How should this interest be distributed? Should we play games all the time? The first should be free play to develop improvisation, abstraction and social skills. Secondly, all kinds of activities such as painting, dough, mud, cutting and sticking should be done together with the parents to develop the fine motor and manual skills of the child. Thirdly, activities such as reading, storytelling, etc. that support language development can be done.

It should not be forgotten that mothers who expect a good future for their children need the quality attention and love of their parents instead of a good school, a good classroom, a good study center. Basically, it is an undeniable fact that children who receive this attention and love in the first 5 years of childhood show less problem behavior, are more satisfied, happier and more successful in the future. A healthy bond with children is paramount for a healthy society and healthy child.

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