About content posted on social media about narcissism

My colleagues use highly exclusionary and stigmatizing statements on social media about people experiencing narcissistic personality incompatibilities. “How do you protect yourself from the narcissistic individual?” I can’t count dozens of titles such as “How do you hurt a narcissistic person and how do you overcome them” “Toxic sentences used by narcissists” “Narcissists are very afraid of them”… A Victim was defined in the usually experienced problem, and they told the victim through the eyes of the victim. Video content has become popular and interesting with the empathy shown to the victim.
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The problem is that while talking to my clients about their troubles, they do their own research to better understand their distress, so someone suffering from narcissism comes across these videos. This is where the whole problem starts. To explain this, I will first have to introduce narcissism simply.
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We are all trying to survive with what has happened to us and we develop different ways for it. Narcissistic personality incompatibilities are the product of a survival effort developed against a mixture of certain childhood traumas, wrong parental attitudes, temperament, and social traumas. Due to life events, emotional needs such as love, respect, trust, justice, patience, adequate boundaries and freedom cannot be met adequately and in a balanced way, and the person activates defense mechanisms with the way his temperament and experiences show in order to hold on to life. These create dissonances in their social, emotional and professional life in later life; therefore, there are parties affected by these inconsistencies. However, the excommunicative talk of psychologists deepens the wounds experienced in childhood, such as exclusion, imperfection, and dislike. As a result, I saw that my clients come to the meeting with beliefs such as hopelessness and exclusion, losing their motivation for the therapy process. It really bothered me that this was caused by the videos and articles of my colleagues.
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A relationship always creates its own chemistry. Just as a relationship with someone with a dependent personality will have certain difficulties (such as clinging, resentment), there are also certain difficulties in narcissism. Relationship chemistry is bidirectional. The personality structures of two people interact. If there is an adherent and a cling in a dependent relationship, how the clinging person will react to it is also related to the personality structure of the addicted person. One may reject adhesion directly, or another may adapt to adhesion. We call it chemistry.
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Yes, as a result; It is very difficult to have a relationship with someone who USE NARSISTIC DEFENSE, BOTH FINALLY PAY A PRICE OUT OF SUCH RELATIONSHIP. My reproach is not to these couples, but to my colleagues who stigmatize this difficulty. Instead of sharing this issue with the slogans I have mentioned above, it would be appropriate to explain this issue in a scientific language. The reason for addressing the victim directly in the posts may be that it has been assumed that someone experiencing narcissism is not aware of or will not accept their distress (as in the book “Truce with the Narcissist”) or it may be trying to raise awareness, but this does not give the right to use stigmatizing expressions. The language we use should be far from suggesting or implying how aggrieved the victim is and how bad the offender is.

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