Communication difficulties and disconnections may begin between parents and children, especially during adolescence. In this article, I will talk about how important it is for a parent to understand an adolescent child.
Adolescence is the transition period from childhood to young adulthood. Adolescence has many new central developmental tasks. Because of these duties, the responsibility placed on the individual is more than the childhood period, which can lead to confusion. The central developmental tasks of adolescence are as follows;
- Acceptance of own body image (self-awareness)
- Build new and mature relationships with peers of both sexes
- Separation from parents or emotional independence
- Preparing for an emotional/romantic relationship
- Planning your life, setting goals and deciding what you want to be (especially professionally)
As the adolescent faces many innovations, his responsibilities increase at the same time, so the level of difficulty of the adolescence tasks I mentioned is high. These tasks can cause many problems in the adolescent individual. He also wants to deal with problems on his own. At this point, the reactions of individuals to cope with problems come into play. As individuals, we have three types of reactions to dealing with problems. These;
- The freezing reaction is the state of being silent, not reacting to an event.
- The fight reaction is a person’s struggle against an event.
- The avoidance reaction is the fact that he does not know what to do in the face of an event and goes physically in the opposite direction of that event or reactively moves away.
Let’s consider these reactions with an example problem between parent and adolescent. For example, an adolescent who is scolded by a parent does not respond, does not cry, or is not upset, freezes, responds to the parent or tries to solve the problem in a constructive way, fights, closes himself in the room, or gives rounded/evasive answers is an escape reaction.
I will continue this article on adolescence and why adolescents experience problems in my next article on generational and schema differences between parents and adolescents.